I help partners build secure, resilient, and fulfilling relationships by focusing on the present moment. Together, we work with what’s happening in real time to uncover patterns and create opportunities for connection.

I believe that beneath every moment of disconnection lies a deeper desire to feel connected and loved. Sometimes these desires for connection come out in ways that create disconnection instead. My role is to guide couples from patterns of disconnection toward communication rooted in mutual understanding, care, and connection.

Here are a few focuses I hold in this work:

• Somatic & Experiential Focus

• The Cycle

• Shared Vision and Relationship Principals

Somatic / Experiential Focus (Inspired by PACT)

PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) couples counseling is a dynamic, experiential process designed to help you and your partner deepen connection, improve communication, and address challenges in real time. PACT integrates neuroscience, attachment theory, and somatic awareness to focus on how you interact with each other moment by moment during sessions. It’s less about rehashing past issues and more about observing and shifting patterns as they happen.

In a PACT session, I may guide you through structured interactions or exercises to illuminate how you communicate, regulate emotions, and respond to each other under stress. We work with nonverbal cues, body language, and emotional states, helping you both understand and attune to each other’s needs. By practicing secure-functioning behaviors—like mutual care, support, and fairness—you can strengthen your relationship’s foundation. This approach isn’t just theoretical; it’s hands-on and designed to give you tools you can apply immediately in your daily life. Together, we create a space where real change happens in the moment, setting the stage for lasting growth and connection.

The Cycle (Inspired by Emotionally Focused Therapy)

One dynamic I often work with is the pursuer-withdrawer cycle, a common pattern where one partner seeks closeness and reassurance (the pursuer), while the other retreats or distances themselves to avoid overwhelm or conflict (the withdrawer). This cycle tends to escalate: the more the pursuer pushes for connection, the more the withdrawer pulls away. Over time, what begins as a small miscommunication can spiral into criticism from one partner and defensiveness from the other. Left unchecked, this cycle can lead to frustration, disconnection, and misunderstanding—like dancing a painful waltz that neither partner enjoys.

Our work begins by identifying this cycle and learning to recognize it as it happens. By bringing it into awareness, we can interrupt the reactive patterns and replace them with healthier ways of engaging. Think of it as changing the music and learning a new, more harmonious dance. I’ll guide you in developing tools for emotional regulation, clear communication, and mutual understanding, creating a space where both partners feel seen, heard, and supported. This process fosters safety and trust, allowing your relationship to shift from reactive and defensive to secure and deeply attuned.

Shared Vision and Relationship Principals

A shared vision in relationships serves as a guiding compass, aligning both partners toward common goals and values. It involves co-creating a sense of purpose and understanding what you both hope to build together, whether it’s a family, a partnership, or a shared life journey. This vision is not static; it evolves as individuals grow and circumstances change. A shared vision fosters a sense of unity and direction, offering a foundation for navigating challenges, boundaries, desires, and celebrating successes together. A shared vision can give a sense of purpose, safety, and momentum in relationship.

Some relationships don’t put as much emphasis on a vision - this is totally fine; however, it is often helpful to explore where partners align on a shared vision or lack thereof.